10-09-2013, 04:48 AM
Yea, If I didn't really know the person, I'll feel sad for their family and friends or whatever, but that's about it. I'm not gonna get all upset.
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10-09-2013, 04:48 AM
Yea, If I didn't really know the person, I'll feel sad for their family and friends or whatever, but that's about it. I'm not gonna get all upset.
10-09-2013, 01:46 PM
I guess it's really the difference between empathy and the feeling of loss.
10-09-2013, 05:55 PM
Somewhere during the day when I wanted to check the forum I got a message that it doesn't exist...I clicked on a favourites link so there is no way I got it wrong. I got a "The forum does not exist, why not register it for FREE?" message.
10-09-2013, 06:57 PM
I got that message a while ago too. And for some reason quoting is broken for me
I agree with enforced. And maybe those people that supposedly bitched about her have changed, or maybe they even partly blame themselves. Seems pretty wrong to assume their feelings aren't legitimate, and even if they are that's probably all they know. Maybe they just think it would be really rude to not show some sympathy. I don't think I have experience with unexpected loss, but I think one positive interaction would be enough to bum me out, or at least shock me emotionally.
10-09-2013, 07:08 PM
But what would you say if they really were faking it? How would you feel if you had a loved one die, and you saw people crying over him/her and they didn't know who they were? I would personally be angered.
Also I don't see how my classmates would blame themselves for the girl's death if she died from a seizure, something that I recalled her having a couple times at school. It's irritating when you see someone crying and they said "I don't know who he was, but I'm crying anyway" I lost count how many times I heard that when my friend died. It's really fake.
10-09-2013, 07:13 PM
(This post was last modified: 10-09-2013, 07:13 PM by BobSacamano.)
Oh sorry I was confusing the stories, I thought we were talking about a suicide.
It kind of depends I guess. I don't know how I'd react as that's a pretty extreme situation I haven't been in but I don't know if I'd like it anymore if they were apathetic either. My natural reaction would likely be frustration but if you look at it from a logical standpoint they're probably really just trying to be polite or don't know what else to do.
I don't have a problem with someone saying "I'm sorry for your loss" if I said my Great Uncle Billy died, but if I said it and a couple classmates start bawling and they don't know who he is, I'm going to think "why the hell are you crying? You didn't know my great uncle even existed until just now"
10-09-2013, 07:19 PM
10-09-2013, 07:27 PM
(This post was last modified: 10-09-2013, 07:28 PM by BobSacamano.)
Yeah but does that actually happen often? I think it'd be different if you said your friend died, because then it's assumed he's young and the loss is unexpected and it "wasn't his time". It's really a sadder story that way, as he probably didn't live what's considered to be a full life. They could just be empathetic for you or trying to help in the same way a hug would. I agree crying is likely a bit much but people respond to traumatic things differently.
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